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What would Rachel Hollis do? - What are your hopes and dreams?

Updated: Feb 17, 2020

Are you ready? What are your hopes and dreams for 2019? Do you have a plan on how to make your dreams a reality? I just finished reading “Girl, Wash Your Face” by blogger turned media mogul, Rachel Hollis (a great read for any gal with a dream) and she offers some great advice on making your dreams a reality. One piece of advice I liked that she shared about goal setting is not to put a deadline on a big goal because sometimes it takes years to achieve. Yes… I said years…. She always wanted to be a writer, but it took years before she got a book deal and made the best sellers list. I think she said 8 years. But she didn't give up. Shit, in 8 years I’ll be ….hold on I need to grab my calculator for this. Old! Ok, I can’t think about it….it’s only a number….right.  Rachel goes on to say to not allow anyone to tell you what you can and can’t have, be or do.  Only you can decide that.  If you want it bad enough, you’ll do it. You’ll have to do it… You can't rely on anyone else. Not your husband, not your friend, not your sister or mother. Only you can do the work to make it happen. She offers that you go full throttle with your imagination…..like playing make-believe. Maybe your big dream is to be invited to the Oscars. She suggests that you don’t just think I want to go to the Oscars.  No, you think about what you’re going to wear, who you’re with and at whose table (Kevin Bacon maybe). You practice your smile and poses for the waiting cameras.  Get as specific as possible.  Use all your senses. What does it look like (red, red everywhere) smell like (sweet flowers), sound like (screaming crowd yelling your name when they see you), feel like (it’s warm with all the lights), and taste like (champagne bubbles touching your lips?  I know what your saying…but Barbara I haven’t written the first scene of my screenplay let alone made a film.  Everyone starts at the beginning. It’s what you do next that matters. Don’t give up on your fantasy – here’s how to use your dreams to set achievable goals. Setting and achieving goals is a fantastic way to make progress and keep motivated, but many people struggle to set realistic goals and stick to them.  There are many ways to approach this process, but I’ll share my process. The first step of goal setting is to write down your BIG dreams and aspirations. Get them on paper. Let your imagination run wild. Slip into your favorite chair with a cup of tea or wine (I don’t discriminate) and crack open a beautiful brand-new journal for a dedicated dream-catching session. The important thing is to get them down on paper.  Think long-term – in one or five years what do you want?  Do you want to be the CEO or be the star on TV or run your first marathon? Write them all down – don’t judge and don’t censor. Let’s take a dream of writing a book and turn it into smaller steps. Ask yourself what you need to do to write a non-fiction book. You need an idea for the book and the steps it will take to write each chapter, you need to write the first chapter, write the first draft….. All these steps are achievable and within your control. Check the steps are small enough if you can’t imagine achieving them within a month or so break them down further. Put a deadline against all your steps and action items to reach your goals. Lastly, you can’t take NO for an answer. At the first sign of trouble don’t back down. Maybe you sent your book draft to 20 agencies to only get shot down. You don’t quit. You adjust. As in Rachels case when she was trying to get her first book published and was declined multiple times, she didn’t take no for an answer. At first, she was crushed, but then she decided to self-publish her book, and to date, she has sold over 100,000 copies of that first book. Ok, …that’s my pep talk for you and your 2019 Big Dreams. If you want some additional motivation, Rachel Hollis has a movie “Made for More” at local theaters all across the country showing today (going tonight and might pee my pants.If you read the book, you’ll recognize the reference) and January 9th. Here’s the description: “This is more than a documentary. It’s a film packed with tools to help you discover the best version of yourself. An uplifting mix of encouragement, community, laughs and kick-you-in-the-rear motivation that will have you ready to reach for more?"  I hope this process will help you to reach for the stars and crush your goals in 2019….Oorah!

With Love and Gratitude, Barbara

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Barbara Murphy-Shannon is a Mindset Business Coach for Women Entrepreneurs. She puts out a weekly blog, offers workshops and retreats. Barbara@barbaramurphyshannon.com