ARE YOU A BIG FAT IMPOSTER? I AM.
Updated: Mar 8
Do you ever say to yourself “what the hell am I doing?”
“What have I gotten myself in too?”
It sucks! You think to yourself; this isn’t what I signed up for.
Then you start to beat yourself up.
Self-doubt and panic start to creep in.
"Imposter syndrome"—the nauseating feeling that we all get when we’re stepping out of our norm…like starting a business, applying for a job, creating art, writing a book, making a movie, teaching a class, running an event. The list goes on.
It’s an awful feeling.
We’ve all been there.
I’m coming up on my anniversary of coaching full-time and being a solopreneur. I love the freedom of being my own boss, making decisions, creating blogs, social media and everything that comes with it including wearing no make-up and workout clothes all day.
However, what they don’t tell you is there is a shitty side of being a solopreneur.
You’re always questioning yourself and your decisions
There is never enough time in the day to get everything done.
You worry about having enough clients.
It can be overwhelming.
When that voice in your head starts to question "who do you think you are"? Starting a business? Writing a blog? Running retreats? Being a mindset coach?
I’m not good enough.
You want to get up and run…run for the hills or at least to the closest dive bar.
You feel insecure and think you should go get a “real” job.
You started to peruse different online job sites, and boy was that ever discouraging.
Back to the bar.
I load my resume up on Indeed. No cover letter just my resume for mindset coaching. Whatever...
I apply to a couple of jobs that a monkey should be able to get hired for, but I don’t even get a callback.
Back to the bar (you know this is just a metaphor).
I’m feeling sorry for myself. I say to my husband, “what the hell was I thinking? Going back to school and starting a new career at my age.”
My husband, the eternal optimist, says to me,
You got this!
Something will happen!
You just need to hang in there!
I know he’s right but when you’re “in it,” it’s hard to stay positive.
“When taking great leaps forward, life often turns to shit before it turns to Shinola” ~ Jen Sincero
These are the times you need to stay focused and have faith.
You need to believe that everything you want is available to you.
Taking the leap. Doing the thing. And being okay with not knowing what’s going to happen.
You should celebrate imposter syndrome not freak out about it. It means you’re alive….living, breathing, moving, learning, exploring, growing, and yeah you’re courageous.
What’s the alternative? Rotting away in your living room watching Netflix.
“One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time” ~Andre Gide
BAM! Then it happens.
A couple of weeks ago I received an email from a local business coach that is very successful and he'd like to meet to talk about working together. I was featured in a local online magazine and women start to reach out to me for coaching. I write a blog and women start to reach out to me for coaching. My website is getting more hits then it did all last year!
Could you imagine if I didn’t do anything? Didn't go back to school. Didn't quit my job to coach full-time.
"IF I DIDN'T PUT MYSELF OUT THERE!"
It’s like playing the lottery, if you don’t play, you can’t win.
Don't back away.... chase imposter syndrome.
If you second guess yourself...it's ok but don't let it stop you.
Embrace the strange and uncomfortable.
Be brave and walk into the unknown with an open heart.
Don't ask too many questions.
Don't analyze or over think it.
Your safe harbor is only an illusion, anyway: at some point, we will all have our lives turned upside down.
Go, take a risk, live your life
Imposter syndrome isn't what we should be scared of: it's not feeling any at all.
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Barbara Murphy-Shannon is a Mindset Business Coach for Women Entrepreneurs. She puts out a weekly blog, offers workshops and retreats. Have questions, email her- Barbara@barbaramurphyshannon.com